Drop it in CASUALLY, as part of general chit-chat, like it's no big thing (because if it's no biggie to you then that must mean it isn't and wasn't any threat to him), and in such a way as draws similarities with his own past incident. (SK, that award doesn't exist. Which may not seem like a big deal for some of you. If it were my husband, I would be upset too, because that would be so out of character for the man I know. What am I going to do? Period. Your guilt is your punishment. All night I chatted and joked with a group of maybe 10 people, mostly women. That is what separates the women from the girls. This thread has expired - why not start your own? Genie, I think being honest is always the best because. Life's a bleedin' mystery, ain't it? Not just, here's your marriage license good luck. I don't know why I need that so much, but I do. Things have gone a fair way beyond ideal but you aren't a silly school girl after your first taste of wine. Talk About Family, Marriage and Relationships, My magic wand would remove shame from sexuality for all! And yes I do still believe either directly or indirectly, mouth to mouth, tongue swapping French kissing caressing lead to sex. The doubt in your mind over his behaviour might actually be a doubt in your mind over yours. Lee.. you are too funny. "I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person'" I feel like my husband deserves so much better, but can't tell him because the guy isn't some stranger, he's a person I see 5 days a week, and I know if tables were turned and I was in my husbands position I would wonder what interactions were happening between the two in work everyday. If he wants to keep her as a "friend", complete access is a must. Even though it took her a while to make that choice, she both never recognized her role and then made a series of bad choices after. Hi SoulMate! It was just a kiss. Im more than competent at the piano myself, but this guy was amazing. This recently happened to me. You'll have to accept it, face up to it, and put it behind you. We may share information about your use of our site with trusted advertising and analytics partners. What!! Either way, I've noted your comments, I've already decided what I am going to do, and I'll deal with the consequences, whatever they might be. I recall an incident years ago, we were very young, just teenagers, and a girl planted a big kiss on my hubby (then boyfriend) on a night out. Well as far as my experience with sex,I would definitely say I'm not an expert. Now that you got drunk, you feel justified in kissing that person because you got drunk and couldnt help yourself. This post is probably the most intelligent and insightful posts Ive seen on this site. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A You knowing you can trust your husband to do the right thing when faced with temptation is all it takes for him to remain blight-free when blight (whether or not wearing fishnets) threatens. The Fora platform includes forum software by XenForo. Thus it's what I *DID DO* - back in September when at an Indian restaurant with friends (I mentioned it on this forum as apropos to someone's thread) and some bloke tried to come onto me. Changing jobs or departments and without delay, those things that aren't rocket science, is definitely what I as a fractionally betrayed partner would call you putting your rueful money where your rueful mouth is - enough to help reassure permanently. Keep it to yourself. If you think that straight guys are too macho to experiment with same-sex kissing, then yourewrong. How Psychologically Conditioned Rats Are Defusing Landmines, The Innate Intelligence Observed in the Dying Process. It takes to heal the wounded trust again. I wish I told my wife, but she found out because in my browsing history I had searched should I tell my wife I kissed a girl when drunk. 2. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months and I feel so guilty. I don't know if he wants to still be friends with her on FB or not. It's not fair they didn't ask for it. I know I cheated for sure, and thats why I had to confess to my husband that I did it. I have no idea who the girl is. Assistir Chelsea X Leeds - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. If you want to know the why's, you're going to have to be willing to hear the darkest part of what makes me, ME. Pointer much appreciated, though. Lees theory has a big vulnerability. Tl;dr: why do I feel guilty after ending things with a guy who grabbed my ass during our first kiss? Even so, you might find that you are still attracted to other people. Is kissing someone else when drunk cheating? You confessed your sins. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. He was so drunk himself that he started singing I Love Paris and, in the middle of the song, he said in a gruff voice, You wanna kiss me? I know true remorse when I see it. Well you need to figure that out and fast. 3. It happened two days ago. (y) So she told him for starters to kiss her well you know where. One of the best ways is to offer effective apologies. It didn't feel real. She emailed him out of the Blue, and he proudly showed me both her smarmy email and his polite yet nonetheless "on yer bike!" There is more going on. An innocent kiss usually involves getting so plastered that you lose your inhibitions and someone tries to kiss you and you return the kiss. And he kissed me and I reciprocated. He went on to tell me that he kissed another woman and he had to tell me, he couldn't keep it a secret from me. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Turning off notifications, deleting messages, and hiding chat apps may all indicate secrecy. To be honest, my stomach is sick with the thoughts of the whole thing. I myself will have to comment tomorrow, now, although maybe SK and anyone else would like to join in in the meantime? We were chatting when we realised the other woman was snoring. PS: Don't ever drop it, will you. It's South of France for us this year, holiday-wise, and then in about a year-and-a-half's time we're off permanently to Espana (por favor). I wanted to go further with him, but I didnt nor did he push for anything more. If your husband *did* get wind of it thus realised you'd kept it secret from him - despite he told YOU when someone made a pass at HIM - he'd then have A NUMBER of major beefs with you: Certainly, that's what I myself meant and expected you to quote Bienne as more or less echoing. :-) I mean, *I* don't mind if your relationship continues slowly but surely remaining on the skids, do I. Something like that changes almost everything in a marriage. Thank you. True mistakes get owned and rectified. Personally, I think even innocently returning a kiss is cheating, although Id probably keep it to myself! I agree with Vale that the best thing you can do is talk to Cintia about what happened and tell her that seeing her kissing Mercy upset you. I was nervous and prayed nothing would happen but it did. ;-)), Back too Ya My Sistah from another mother!! (By the way, dwahling, am loving your tu-tu and Toys R Us tiara! Can you tthan please explain this? But, listen, I don't want to turn this thread into a general chit-chat one. Mercy got too drunk, Cintia was drunk but she was ok so far. See what she has to say. Login first Then (my name) I NEED SEX! Make lemonade out of them. The 2 Most Psychologically Incisive Films of 2022, The Surprising Role of Empathy in Traumatic Bonding. Kissing a man, I've just got into over the past couple years. Once my tennis coach misread me, came into my house, and gave a peck on my cheeks, in India, kissing is not a social gesture. Own your truth- You did not expect to hear the REAL TRUTH and the RIGHT ADVICE. I spent the next day in bed all day crying and it has to be one of the saddest days of my life. If you we're my girlfriend and it was years ago and never happened again I would not want to know. 2023 FemaleFirst Ltd. all rights reserved. The other day, I had a first with my partner Flo: I put my tongue in another mans mouth while he stood by only to observe. Unfortunately, even these last few asides are tantamount to a forum no-no called thread mutineering. Saying that, however, I note you wrote: Take action instead of ruminating in guilt. I kissed another guy while drunk. I wonder how that struggle with trust might affect bonding within a romantic relationship contex- oh, wait - could it, would it, on a train in the rain with a fox in a box, Sam-I-Am, possibly always communicate to your husband a sense that you don't fully enough trust *him*, in which case that must mean you're judging him by YOUR standards ergo he'd better hold back a bit just in case? Lol Or run away? SOULMATE NO URGE :-8 I'm sensing nose in the air LOL You must see The Grand Canyon, New York- Theater/Art so much raw talent, Just, why leave yourself open if you don't have to. Despite their passion during the kiss though, thestraight guys (quite predictably)all saythey still identified asstraight. Arun, I agree with everything you said here because I was guilty of kissing a guy I liked when I was drunk, knowing that I liked him and wanted to see how much.". You can confess to your significant other and accept the consequences, knowing that you might hurt your partner by confessing. he said if i started making out with another girl, hed be into it, but if i started getting carried away and disappearing with in my opinion I don't see why you would feel guilty you did nothing . When you're in a long-term relationship, it's normal to have a little crush on someone other than your partner. How is that beneficial to him? I feel sorry for the visually impaired but that doesn't mean I want a blind person flying my airplane and my compassion won't make the flight any safer. Look at your first kiss after divorce as a new beginning, a new chapter. get into counselling. There was a line that was crossed when they kissed, he should no longer have her as a Facebook friend, or any other communication with her. And a stitch in time saves nine. Updated January 27, 2023 by ReGain Editorial Team. I was very drunk. A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): Hey sweetie my Name is Jilian I have a boyfriend as well and we have been dating for 3 months, I have had past relationships that have gone on for 11 months, I have cheated on my past boyfriend andi felt so terrible andi was in the same situation as you are, sweetie i know how you feel. No, you don't. However, if it doesn't close itself through sustained inactivity soon then I'll probably close it myself (as the actress said to the bishop). You had too much to drink and you kissed someone who wasnt your boyfriend or your girlfriend. Then I ordered taxis, woke up the other girl and we left. David bit Jordan. I really have a problem believing but forgave her and weve been together another 20 yrs now and have 15 grand children hasnt ever really bothered me but about 3 yrs ago it hit me like of bolt of lightning out of nowhere and I cant get that night out of my mind, keep obsessing over what they might have done and how they spent the 4 or 5 hours that they were together outside the venue that night. I practise what I preach, me. 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If I could go back in time I would because my SO is truly the best person out there. Now is that thread on this site (people's problems)? Plus, I *was* moreover affronted, meaning the guy got off lightly, because [1] I hadn't even caught his eye, [2] my wedding band is very thick thus too noticeable even from a distance, meaning his chat-up attempt was both un-instigated and unwanted, so [3] what sort of person did he think I WAS, just from looking at me?! She confessed to loving the experience and enjoyed the thrill knowing she had her husbands permission and he was watching her. (works every time :-p) Should I ask him for gas money? I cant trust you anymore., You think that having too much to drink made it all right for you to kiss ______? I worry I made huge mistakes in my life and that I am destined to life a "good" family life forever more, but never feel that amazing desire and lust and sexual attraction I don't feel for anyone else but this man. No, if it's sensible debate, based on *facts* rather than wishful thinking, that's fine. He's seemingly petrified I'm going to throw him out, he's cried three times today already and they're only the second time I've ever seen him cry in four years. Hey all. A forum community dedicated to married life between you and your spouse. Of course there would have to be a lot of transparency in the marriage there after. Everyone is telling me not to say anything because it was so long ago and it never happened again, or will it ever. If it were me, I would contact her, & let her know that I didn't appreciate her actions. They say don't tell the wife or husband about the infidelity, because it would cause more hurt. Sums it up nicely. I speak from experience when I say that when that intimacy starts to die, it can be the start of the end.